There are
many books and courses that encourage us to love ourselves. This is a wonderful
shift in human consciousness.
Still, on a
practical level how do we do this successfully? In my case, I used numerous
strategies in an attempt to change my consciousness.
After
badmouthing myself for decades, I listened to my take on life and shut down all
the bad talk. If I said a negative or disparaging comment regarding who I was,
I immediately acknowledged it, and stopped letting it manifest.
Every day,
I listed all my good points in my head. I did ten of them at a time. The next
day, I listed ten new ones. This became a method of self-talk. I also used
Emotional Freedom Tapping (EFT) to remove outdated messages that I had been
playing over and over in my head. If you are interested in EFT, you can find a
lot of information about it on the Internet.
A practical
exercise I did was making myself stand in front of the mirror and telling myself
that I loved all of me, including the parts I wrestled with. Of all the
modalities I used, this one brought up the most emotion. Frequently, until I
filled up my self-love bucket, I would simply stand there crying and sometimes,
I was unable to speak. During these moments, I realized how amazing the process
was, and how much I needed to do it repeatedly.
In
addition, I wrote lists of all my gifts and accomplishments and read them
aloud. There is something quite phenomenal about voicing your thoughts and
feelings. Somehow, it takes the healing to another place. If you then read out
your list to another person, the impact is greater. The healing we gain from
this simple process is much more than we know.
In
reinventing the new me, I decided to surround myself only with people who nurtured
me. Those who could not, I avoided or stood up to. In the situations where I
could do neither, I chose to take their awful comments and symbolically throw
their words into the fire.
Looking after who we
are is self-love, and keeping negativity at bay is a good decision.
Anyone who
tries to sow the seed of doubt in you or withholds their support is not giving
you love. Normally, these souls have little self-love and may find it almost
impossible to give love to anyone, and that will include you.
I focused
on looking after my body, mind, and soul. With that decision, my self-love
increased and instead of berating and punishing myself, I showered myself in
self-love. In addition, eating well, exercising, keeping mentally active,
having social and solitary time, and generally being the best parent and friend
to myself paid dividends.
As I
continued to work on the areas I wished to improve, I came from a loving angle,
encouraging and praising myself and getting rid of any form of self-loathing or
self-punishment.
On a
spiritual level, I filled my body with love and asked to be guided in this
wondrous journey. I read books that inspired me, talked to wise souls and
stopped negatively comparing who I was with other people.
This shift
took concentrated work yet all the time, I knew it was doing me good.
Initially, it was hard to see the changes. Gradually, they appeared.
All these
steps have brought me to a place where I can truthfully say that I love who I
am. This has been a massive achievement, especially considering where I began.
Everyone can attain
self-love. With daily practise and single focus, someone who dislikes themselves
can change their entire life.
When we
learn this lesson in love, it transfers into everything else. Being in a state
of self-love, our capacity to love everybody and everything in the world is
heightened.
Use my
methods, use your methods, and keep working towards a new loving life. One of
the greatest accomplishments humans can do is to embrace who they are and live
in self-love.
There is a podcast on this too on YouTube...see below or https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=moM1Evqi7iQ&list=PLgn-jwYyuvEgojzl57zw7ZBEfzWlbOBy_&index=2&t=7s.
Love the mirror idea! X
ReplyDeleteThanks it worked a treat...amidst the tears. Wendy x
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